So for about a year now I have tried to put out a blog each week and I have been very diligent in doing it on a Sunday afternoon.  Yesterday was Sunday and I had the typical Sunday for me, a day off from training, some laundry and a bit of a tidy around the house.  I must say it was a good day for it because it was cold, wet and windy!  We went from 30 degrees on Friday to 4 degrees yesterday!  Welcome to Melbourne weather.

So when I finished the vacuuming and was waiting for the laundry to finish I sat down to try and write my weekly blog.  There was nothing there, nothing in my head that I thought people would like to read, nothing that I wanted to write.  This was a first.

At first I was very perturbed with myself and if I am really honest a bit panicky that nothing was magically appearing on my computer screen, so I closed the computer thinking that I would get to it later.  But later never came.  The fire was on, Jack was laying at my feet and I had my recliner chair back with my feet up.  I started thinking about how long it had been since I had done nothing.

About an hour later (and with the last of the laundry finished) I thought that now would be the time when inspiration would come to me, so I opened the computer again and just sat there.  I wrote a couple of titles, then nothing!  I felt like I had lost my mojo, so closed the computer.  Last night I was really mad at myself for not posting something.

Then this morning as I was training and battling the rain, wind and cold, I realised that it was okay yesterday to not do anything, to actually say ‘no’ even if it was to myself.  Most of the time I find it hard to say ‘no’, to not only myself but others who ask me to do things.  I feel compelled to say ‘yes’ because I don’t want to let people down, even if it is myself.  But that epiphany out there on the trike made me realise that it’s okay to have time to actually do nothing. It really isn’t nothing, it’s looking after myself.  I was tired and it was my brains way of saying ‘stop’!

If I had pushed through and written a blog yesterday I believe it wouldn’t have been helpful to anyone or even something anyone would want to read, so it was a good idea to just let it go for the day.  And it gave me something to write about today!!

So if you are ever scared to say ‘no’ to someone, just think if you say yes, will you want to get out of it later, will it cause you to lie to get out of the yes or cause you stress or anguish?  Wouldn’t it be better to just say ‘no’ in the first place so you can have the feeling of freedom and empowerment over what you will or won’t do?

This blog may be a day late, but today I felt like I had learnt something from yesterday and wanted to pass it on!

“Freedom comes when you learn to let go, creation comes when you learn to say no.” Madonna Ciccone

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  1. Jennifer Bacon 12/04/2021 at 3:41 pm - Reply

    Sitting by the fire with Jack- Magic.
    The perfect place to be. Enjoy

    • CarolC 13/04/2021 at 10:57 am - Reply

      Thanks Jennifer!

  2. Cynthia Banks 12/04/2021 at 5:56 pm - Reply

    This is exactly what I needed to read. The Universe unfolds in mysterious, beautiful ways.

    • CarolC 13/04/2021 at 10:57 am - Reply

      That it does my beautiful sister!

  3. Marjorie Jenkins 12/04/2021 at 10:24 pm - Reply

    How true Carol. A lesson we all could learn. Thank you for reminding me!

    • CarolC 13/04/2021 at 10:58 am - Reply

      You are more than welcome!

  4. Lynnette Stacker 13/04/2021 at 6:41 pm - Reply

    Too true Carol. I definitely need to heed your advice. Thank you for the reminder xx

    • CarolC 14/04/2021 at 11:06 am - Reply

      No worries Lyn, unfortunately most of us don’t know how to say no!

  5. Muz 13/04/2021 at 8:13 pm - Reply

    Thank you Carol for sharing this important principle. From inner integrity comes courageous honesty.l

    • CarolC 14/04/2021 at 11:07 am - Reply

      Thanks Muz for your comment. We all need how to learn to say no!

  6. Phyllis Banks 15/04/2021 at 8:54 am - Reply

    Good advice Carol , which I will take to heart.
    Thank you.

    • CarolC 15/04/2021 at 11:40 am - Reply

      You are more than welcome!

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