How many times have we hung on to something so tight that we never wanted to let it go?  Or held back on trying something new due to fear of failure, embarrassment or rejection?     The protective walls that we build around ourselves can sometimes be stifling but they can also be useful during particularly difficult times which create a safe environment where we can heal.  But once the challenges have passed its important to break out of that protective layer and let go, otherwise we are ultimately held back from growth.

This could be hanging on to or protecting ourselves from anything; a job we desperately want to get away from, a way of thinking that we aren’t happy about, your child as they leave the nest or a new way of life we so badly want to attempt.  I know that there have been times in my life that I haven’t wanted to let go but eventually realised that it was the best thing to do.

Let me tell you about the humble lobster and his shell.  As a lobster grows the casing that protects his soft inner flesh becomes too tight and rigid.  The shell that once felt secure now holds him back from growth.  So the lobster must free himself from the confining shell.  It can take a while for the new shell to finally harden.  So during this vulnerable time his flesh absorbs sea water and he grows bigger and heavier.  He grows a new shell until this one too becomes to tight and he does it all over again.

So this week try to become aware of the protective walls you have around you and try to free yourself.  Give yourself the opportunity to grow, like the lobster and create the change that you have been thinking about.  You never know it may just be what you have been looking for.

‘And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom’ ~ Anais Nin

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  1. Annice 23/05/2021 at 9:25 pm - Reply

    So very true – thanks for sharing Carol and see you soon. Annice xo

    • CarolC 24/05/2021 at 3:56 pm - Reply

      No worries Annice, glad you agree!

  2. Lynnette Stacker 24/05/2021 at 8:51 am - Reply

    Hey Carol, so true. I am definitely guilty of hanging onto what is familiar and comfortable & am taking steps to change that. Thank you for your wise words. A timely reminder to us all.
    Love it

    • CarolC 24/05/2021 at 3:56 pm - Reply

      Thanks Lyn, changing what we are comfortable is really hard! Knowing you I am sure that whatever you are trying to change will be awesome for you!

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