I wish..

What if…

I should have…

If only…

These are a few of the ways we start sentences when we are having regrets.  I read a blog the other day by Doreen Eshinali Khamala who is from Nairobi, Kenya, who writes as if in conversation with a friend who is a risk taker and her words made me really sit down and think.  See if they resonate with you;

“If you died right now, would you say that you died happy, having accomplished most of what you want in life? would you die knowing you made people’s days better? would you die knowing you never let your team down when they needed you most? I do all of these crazy things to live my life to the max. Because if I died right this instant, I know I would be the happiest dead person under the dirt. Why would you waste your life? Of course, we all have those days where we lay in bed and do nothing all day. But take every other day and use 100% of it. Take every person you meet and get to know 100% of them. If I died right this instant, I would know I died knowing that I completed my journey on earth, that I jumped through every open window, dealing with whatever I plunged into. I took every opportunity, good or bad, and did what I can with it. I made good choices and bad choices. I learned from every experience I had. So, if I died right now, I would be okay. I would have no regrets for things I should’ve done.”

We all want to feel as though we have lived our lives to the fullest, we all want to have found happiness, meaning and a sense of belonging.  It’s time you take stock of what regrets you don’t want to go to your grave with and fulfil them.  Live each day as if it is your last, chase your dreams and think about what legacy you want to leave behind.  Don’t be leaving this world saying

If only…

I should have…

What if…

I wish

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  1. Annice 18/10/2020 at 1:49 pm - Reply

    So very true. Thank you Carol. xo

    • CarolC 19/10/2020 at 6:38 am - Reply

      You are more than welcome Annice!

  2. Cathy Hintermeister 20/10/2020 at 12:44 am - Reply

    Hey Carol, great advice. Usually live the way I enjoy, work, sports, friends, travel. Unfortunately Covid has thrown off my balance (I am sure like most people!) trying to find that new passion and joy! It will come but it is a task into itself!

    • CarolC 21/10/2020 at 9:30 am - Reply

      Hi Cathy, yes I agree, all our lives have been in upheavel and we have had to find out what we can find to do in the meantime. I know I have tried to keep things ticking along by keeping my days as close to ‘normal’ as I can. But I have really found a passion for writing, have kept up the blogs and even spent the time writing my second book. Hopefully I will be getting it published soon. But it is important to find somethng you get joy from.

  3. Adrienne 20/10/2020 at 6:38 am - Reply

    Thanks for provoking thought and analysis. The worst experience in my life moved me in directions I’d never dreamed of, on paths I never thought I would/could follow, to accomplishments I never could have envisioned.

    • CarolC 21/10/2020 at 9:32 am - Reply

      You are welcome Adrienne. From the darkness can come light! I know that my diagnosis of MS was one of the worst times of my life, but I have turned that around and realised that it has given me opportunities I never would have had and I wouldn’t change that for anything. Glad that you have found that too.

  4. Nektaria Renfree 22/10/2020 at 1:01 am - Reply

    Wow. Inspiring Carol. Thank you.

    • CarolC 23/10/2020 at 5:44 am - Reply

      You are welcome Nektaria and thank you.

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